Want some good non-fiction books to read? The Untethered Soul and The Surrender Experiment, both by Michael Singer, may be just what you’re looking for. They address topics of being present, watching your thoughts, keeping perspective, flowing with what life presents, fear, trust, exploring the inner self, keeping an open heart, and the beauty of service.
In this post, I’ll share a few quotes from The Untethered Soul and in a future post, I’ll share some quotes from The Surrender Experiment: My Journey Into Life’s Perfection.
Quotes from The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
“How did we come up with the notion that life is not okay just the way it is, or that it won’t be okay the way it will be? Who said that the way life naturally unfolds is not all right? The answer is, fear says so.” (72)
“As you grow spiritually, you will realize that your attempts to protect yourself from your problems actually create more problems. …
The alternative is to decide not to fight with life You realize and accept that life is not under your control. Life is continuously changing, and if you’re trying to control it, you’ll never be able to fully live it.” (72-73)
“If you maintain your center, you can learn to appreciate and respect even the difficult experiences.” (86)
“Your mind is always telling you that you have to change something outside in order to solve your inner problems. But if you are wise, you won’t play this game. … Of all the advice in the world that you do not want to listen to, it is the advice of a disturbed mind. …
The fact is, however, external changes are not going to solve your problem because they don’t address the root of your problem. The root problem is that you don’t feel whole and complete within yourself. If you don’t identify the root properly, you will seek someone or something to cover it up. You will hide behind finances, people, fame, and adoration. I you try to find the perfect person to love and adore you, and you manage to succeed, then you have actually failed. You did not solve your problem. All you did was involve that person in your problem. That is why people have so much trouble with relationships. You began with a problem inside yourself, and you tried to solve it by getting involved with somebody else. That relationship will have problems.” (92-93, bold mine)
“The truth is, everything will be okay as soon as you are okay with everything. And that’s the only time everything will be okay.” (95)
A Few Thoughts
The Untethered Soul invites readers to think about concepts in a different way than they may be used to. The idea that many relationship issues are due to inner issues carried by the individuals in the relationship absolutely rings true for me. That’s why I offer one-on-one Health Coaching with a Marriage Improvement focus instead of just health coaching or just marriage improvement coaching. The health of the marriage is based and built on the health of each spouse. Learning effective health and happiness habits as an individual helps you show up happier, healthier, and wiser in your marriage. Reading books like these help me stay centered, which is why I recommend them! If you are interested in scheduling a free consultation about my health coaching programs, contact me here.
To your health, happiness, and happily ever after,